1/22/2005 10:33:40 PM|||Beth Dargis|||

Another snowstorm has us nesting into our home. Many of the roads were unpassable, so we stayed inside all day. We stayed extra time in bed. We watched movies and cooked together. We worked on a few home projects. I only went out once to take some pictures in the snow. My husband snowblowed our driveway and our next door neighbor's while our son shoveled porches and part of the sidewalks.
I worked on a goals notebook. I had a 3-ring binder with goals and action plans before. Today, after reading about one in Success Principles, I added specific details and pictures cut from magazines. The book suggests looking over the goals at least twice a day. I'm willing to try it.
How are you nesting this winter?
|||110645182028518962|||Nesting1/21/2005 06:35:44 PM|||Beth Dargis|||Today the kid's had off of school for records day. They were a little disappointed that I decided to throw in a little work with their play. Usually on days off I let them have extra play time and we do some fun things together. But, today after seeing their rooms I thought some work was in order.
So before we played Clue together, I had them work on their rooms for 20 minutes in certain sections while I worked. Before lunch and baking cookies, they worked another 30 minutes on their rooms. After cookies we worked on the kitchen and garbage before we had some reading time with Jeff and the kids. Now they are playing on the computer until my hubby wakes up so one can do dishes and one can bring up the laundry. Then we will settle in for a movie before bed. |||110635084437830476|||Working and Playing1/20/2005 06:30:07 PM|||Beth Dargis|||"You weren't an accident. You weren't mass produced. You aren't an assembly-line product. You were deliberately planned, specifically gifted, and lovingly positioned on the Earth by the Master Craftsman." ~ Max Lucado
I truly believe this. I hear so many people say how worthless they feel and I feel saddened. Because I know they were put here for a reason and their life means something.
Read over the above quote. He is talking about you.|||110635050747317128|||Believe in Yourself1/19/2005 03:08:37 PM|||Beth Dargis|||Ben Franklin loved the idea of making the most of yourself. From his humble beginnings as a printer he became an icon of that century.
His virutes he worked on were as follows:
1. TEMPERANCE.
Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
2. SILENCE.
Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
3. ORDER.
Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
4. RESOLUTION.
Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
5. FRUGALITY.
Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
6. INDUSTRY.
Lose no time; be always employ'd in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
7. SINCERITY.
Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
8. JUSTICE.
Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
9. MODERATION.
Avoid extreams; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
10. CLEANLINESS.
Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths, or habitation.
11. TRANQUILLITY.
Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
12. CHASTITY.
Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dulness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another's peace or reputation.
13. HUMILITY.
Imitate Jesus and Socrates.
You can read more of his plan in the 8th chapter of his autobiography:
http://www.earlyamerica.com/lives/franklin/chapt8/index.html|||110616567708175787|||Ben Franklin's Self-Improvement Plan1/17/2005 11:08:16 PM|||Beth Dargis|||I've been thinking a lot about perfectionism and pushing vs. pulling in my life thanks to recent conversations with a client. Sometimes I can get rigid and aggravated with change of plans. I have this perfect picture of how things are supposed to go and then when it doesn't I get down on myself.
Especially at the beginning of a new year. I want so much and I want it now. And perfectly. :) I can push myself too hard. I think it's that eldest child syndrome.
Then I remember again that I don't have to be perfect. Life doesn't have to be perfect. And to be open in the moment because the moment is where life happens anyway.
Today was going to be really productive. During my quiet time, I was reminded in my journaling and reading to relax a little. So when my husband says lets stay in bed and cuddle and watch a movie I smiled and said yes. Then after a client chat I said yes to lunch out together. And they were real yeses. Not "I will, but I'd rather be doing something else" yeses. I was flowing with the day and being happy all the while.|||110602185875391577|||Pushing and Pulling1/14/2005 10:55:08 AM|||Beth Dargis|||I read this at success.net today and I just love it.
Action will change your attitude.
Motion will change your emotions.
Movement will change your moods.
I love this and it is so true. If you act lovingly towards your spouse. You start to feel more loving. If you act more lovingly towards yourself, you feel more loving towards yourself.
When you smile and stand straight, you feel better. When you scowl and look down you feel worse.
The thing is most people think the way they feel is the way they feel. And they don't think they can change it. But, they can: through action, through music, through conversation, through journaling, through standing straighter, through getting off the couch.
Try it today.|||110571840813592986|||Success.net1/11/2005 05:01:08 PM|||Beth Dargis|||If you are like me, January is a time to get the house back in shape after all the paper, decorations, cards, cookies, and visitors. This day by day article should help: 30 Day to a Clean House|||110548098806985686|||Catching up on cleaning1/11/2005 03:19:30 PM|||Beth Dargis|||I read an article from the Discipleship Archives today called, "Stressed? How to Experience a Calmer Life." Practical ideas for dealing with stress and the reasons behind why we need to slow down - Things I hadn't even thought of. You can find it here:
http://www.navpress.com/Magazines/DJ/ArticleDisplay.asp?ID=110.09 You may have to register for the archives first. It is from March/April 1995.
|||110547519050061333|||Stressed?1/10/2005 07:46:06 PM|||Beth Dargis|||Turn Your Bedroom Into a Haven and article of mine in Organized Mom.
And thanks for all of you who are recommending me. I have gotten quite a few new sessions this week.
Today was one of those days. The ATM ate my card, we rushed to pick up my daughter, drove back to the other side of town, waited at the bank, got my card, got my money to pay the overdue library books fines, drove back to the library which is right by daughters school. We went to check out and pay the fine. Couldn't find the money anywhere. My purse was in shambles looking for it. Searched the car. Our pockets. Nothing.
Yet - we had money in the bank, we were just on time to pick up my daughter, we hit only green lights, the lady at the bank was really nice, I only took out a $20, we live in a smaller town so across down isn't that far, my purse is now organized, the director was checking out our books and whispered that he already entered it and the computer thinks we paid. I was so relieved. I'll have to bring the money next time.
Yep, it was one of those days - great!|||110540484617803000|||Turn Your Bedroom Into a Haven1/08/2005 11:45:31 AM|||Beth Dargis|||January's Newsletter is out: http://www.encouragingcoach.com/newsletter-jan05.htm on Designing Supportive Environments.
Doing it from the new autoresponder system, so I was able to do an HTML version. Hoping it works great. The test worked :)
I am also having fun with new clients ready to change their life for this new year.|||110520291118285272|||Designing Supportive Environments1/07/2005 02:01:14 PM|||Beth Dargis|||"Dreams need doing as much as they need being, or they remain wishes." ~Sarah Ban Breathnach in her book, "The Simple Abundance Companion."
What is your dream? What are you doing about it?|||110512459465082599|||Quote1/06/2005 03:44:14 PM|||Beth Dargis|||What in your life is working well?|||110504431471549430|||Question of the Week1/05/2005 03:46:27 PM|||Beth Dargis|||Wow, I am on the last of the 52 tiny changes. I am thinking about putting the changes into an e-book. What do you think?
Tiny Change
#52 Focus on one project to complete this week
|||110504450725223156|||52 Tiny Changes #531/04/2005 03:55:04 PM|||Beth Dargis|||USA Today had a great article on french eating: http://www.usatoday.com/life/lifestyle/2005-01-03-french-diet-cover_x.htm, which is very in tune to how I urge people to eat. The article is based on the book French Women Don't Get Fat by French-born Mireille Guiliano. The book is subtitled The Secret of Eating for Pleasure.|||110504514444835209|||French Women Don't Get Fat1/03/2005 03:59:24 PM|||Beth Dargis|||I hope you all had a relaxing, renewing holiday season. We enjoyed a white Christmas, and visited many relatives.
I love the fresh slate feeling of the new year. I planned my goal's. I decided on Reach Out as my theme for the year. I want to get better aquainted with some people, renew some friendships, and lend more support.
In my Simplicity Calendar I have ask some purpose questions. See if you can get some quiet time to answer them yourself.
1. Describe your ideal life.
2. Who is in it?
3. What are you doing?
4. What do you own?
5. How do you spend your days?
6. What's important to you?
7. What do you enjoy?
8. Define success for yourself
9. What are you committed to?
10. What are your main 4-5 priorities?
11. Who do you love?
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